whereagles, on Mar 17 2006, 12:05 PM, said:
If there's anyone who should be reading the posts again, that one is you, mikeh. You're twisting some of the things I said in a self-serving, biased manner.
Ok: so I read the posts again
AKxxxxx A10xxx: "It's matchpoints, right? Open 4
♥..."
K6 K1086 96 KQ863 P (1
♦) ?
"I bid 2
♣.... my style is to be the master of my own destiny.Meaning: when I have a chance to try and do something myself, I take it....
"I usually get away with murder... I hardly ever get caught speeding....I just happen to be someone who has managed to realize that sometimes it isn't enough to 'bid my hand'.....Failure to take charge is the nr. 1 source of misunderstandings...I'd rather be a hog than a rabbit"
Now, let me see.... who wrote those comments? And what do they reveal about that player's view of his role at the table? A player who sees bidding primarily as a dialogue with partner or a player who thinks that it is his role to make the partnership decisions?
Bridge is a game that plays to one's ego. Just about every bridge player I know reasonably well thinks better of his or her game than do most of his or her peers... and I claim no immunity from that nor am I stating that this is the case with all or even most of the posters on this forum: I know almost none of them well enough to make that statement. But, so long as the self-image is fairly close to reality, this is, I think, a good thing. Show me a pair who, on sitting down against me, thinks that my partner and I are better than them, and I will show you a pair we rate to beat. You need to either own or share 'the table' psychologically.
But the better players subordinate their ego to the partnership, and that means allowing partner an equal role in decision making. Your approach seems to be the precise opposite. But, I concede, I have never (to my knowledge) played against you and I may be misunderstanding what you are trying to say.
'one of the great markers of the advance of human kindness is the howls you will hear from the Men of God' Johann Hari