(ETA fixed the bidding; ReETA - though forgot to include the alert that opening 4441s 1N is systematic for us)
This hand did not exactly cover me in glory, but I was quite annoyed by how it had gone down (I didn't involve the director at the time, since it was my first time at the club, and I didn't really care that much about the hand when we were doing so poorly anyway).
After W's Xfer break, N started to ask questions about whether we play retransfers and what the break showed. We were well behind at the time and feeling very rushed, which if not justifies, maybe gives some context to the rest of the auction. I'd been planning to sign off in 4S to catch up, but since N seemed substantial enough to know that he shouldn't be asking questions if he wasn't thinking about bidding, I thought he ought to have the KC, and decided to make the slam try - but quickly changed my mind after S's X.
My partner carried on - I now think rightly, and that I should have been able to place him with a singleton if I'd trusted him, but at the time I was feeling flustered, and figured that he'd lost his mind and decided to bid RKCB (I'd also forgotten that, by our agreement, his 4N was Turbo). Since any (RKCB) response could excite him and I was still feeling flustered, and he was showing values in my weak suits, I figured passing would at least end the pain, hopefully ensure a positive and might even score us a similar number of tricks to spades and conceivably be our last making contract.
So, 0 out of 10 for my decision-making on this board. Nonetheless, when I wondered about N's hand, and when I saw it later, felt that he'd acted unethically in asking questions with such a poor hand. Had I been in a really competitive match, I thought I might have asked for a director ruling, on the grounds that (I claim), he'd talked us out of 4S (for about 50%, as opposed to our approx 6% for 4N managing to go off 1). So, had I done so, how would the ruling have gone?