Posted 2008-August-21, 07:18
Sweet bird of youth. As mentioned, I found college very worthwhile. That's not the same as saying that I was a diligent scholar. I skipped classes, sometimes not showing up for anything for a week or so. I had to repeat a required course because I found it so boring I almost never came. The exams were easy enough even w/o coming, but the prof gave a daily quiz, open book on the hw, 10 points a shot, total point scoring. He could have turned in my F by Thanksgiving. I had written "*****" all over the book and ripped it in half at the end of the semester. When I found that I failed I brought the appropriate pieces of the book to class the next semester. The text was written by the prof, he probably wasn't amused, but this time I was there for the stupid quizzes so he had to pass me.
It was a very practically oriented course. This didn't match my own interests.
So there was some crap. That's life. At its best, college was very good and I loved it.
To my amazement, at the end of my senior year in high school I received a four year scholarship, without which I don't see how I could have paid for college. I wasn't always on the right side in high school either. I regularly skipped last period during my senior year. The teacher had a drinking problem and by last period was sort of unaware of who was in class, and I had a girlfriend at another school I he was hoping to meet. I graduated without being on the honor roll, but my high school math teacher had some influence, and used it, with the scholarship folks.
Life is messy. I can well imagine people thinking I squandered much that was given me. A couple of my high school teachers went out of their way to make it clear they were not congratulating me on my scholarship. But for me it worked very well and I am, as far as I know, the only one in my graduating class with a Ph.D.
I think people ought to go the way they think is right. Stay on the right side of the law and try not to embarrass the family, but otherwise go your own way. If you think college would be a waste of time, don't go. My younger daughter made this choice, with my blessing, and her life is going fine. It's important to learn how to do something useful. She owns and runs a boarding kennel.
Ken